Third Interview with 'Our Way' Magazine.

Mistress Milliscent, Revisited

Last month at the Leather Womyn's dinner we did a review as to where we have been and what is happening today in the BDSM scene. It has changed in some ways -- we are a lot older and there is new blood with fresh ideas now and organizations. It made me think and remember a dear old friend who had been such a big help to me when I started the on-line edition of OUR WAY.

I sent her an email to renew our friendship and wondered if she somehow might reminisce about where she had been and done these past years. I asked if she could give me an idea or two in this regard that would let me come back and ask questions. I wondered if she had written any more of her famous Bedtime Stories? Her stories were so different from the many stories and fictions written by men who so often lack the capability to adequately describe a woman's sexual responses.

I am delighted to present the 'interview' to you here:

It may be only six or seven years since we first met on the Internet but a lot has changed since then in the BDSM scene. Are you aware of these enough to comment on them?

Mistress Milliscent responded: The best change I see these past years is the obvious increase in the number of people who are embracing their fantasies, and exploring BDSM. The BDSM community seems to be growing by leaps and bounds, at least in my area, opportunities for exploration have exploded.

As a professional Mistress --have your clients changed in what they are looking for and the type of person that comes to you seeking help?

I have not noticed a difference in the people who are interested in coming to see me. People who come to me are all totally unique individuals, and I value their difference. I believe that BDSM always has, and always will appeal to a great cross section of society.

How do you find them now - or they find you?

I continue to advertise my services only on the Internet. I still believe that email offers the best opportunity to get to know someone prior to a face to face meeting.

Are you still working with crossdressers? Have you seen a change there in their desires, fantasies and fetishes. Have you come across any TS clients that are or may be in transition - or even post ops?

Indeed, feminization and crossdressing scenes remain great fun for me. I would like to mention two particular submissives at this time.

Chip began coming to see me quite a few years ago, and we have enjoyed a wonderful relationship both inside and outside of the dungeon. He had always wanted to pursue a complete gender change, and has now reached the point where that is possible. Chip is now Desire living as a woman full time, and I don't believe that she has ever been happier. I'm looking forward to many more years with my old/new friend Desire.

I met Rachel at a party I was hosting, she is truly a wonderful woman, and offers me a unique perspective because I never knew her when she was living as a male. To my mind, there is absolutely no difference between her and a genetic girl.

How has your dungeon matured over this time span?

My dungeon has matured by continuing to fill up with an ever-increasing collection of toys. It is truly an amazing collection now. I must admit that I am just like the proverbial "kid in a candy store." I have also acquired a second dungeon, it is housed in it's own quite large building next to my summer home.

The second dungeon offers a very unique feel in that it is located deep in the mountains, on the banks of a river, surrounded by forest, and is rustic in keeping with it's location. I don't often play there, but when the weather is right it can't be beat.

Have you worked with clubs and organizations differently?

Unfortunately, my favorite club in Vancouver BC was closed, and the owners were not able to reopen in a new location for a variety of reasons. Things also changed somewhat in my life making the journey to Vancouver more difficult.

For that reason, I have started a club of my own. It is a private venue, not open to the public, with a small membership list. I find that I enjoy it very much, and welcome the opportunity to host all of my friends at the play parties.

How has that fine husband of yours been with the scene over the years?

He continues to be just fine, finding marked success in his own chosen career. Our relationship remains strong. We both find tremendous enjoyment in our BDSM activities, and will never give them up.

Do you feel any older - or just as young at heart as ever?

I must admit that I don't feel any older. It still seems like yesterday that I began my own explorations into BDSM, and I still feel the same excitement before each scene that I felt in the very beginning.

You wrote such beautiful Bedtime Stories - are they still popular and do you have reader interest still?

Thank you. I do still have occasion to distribute copies of the Bedtime Stories. I don't still sell them, however. I decided to keep my remaining copies to give away, so removed their pages from my website.

Where do you think the BDSM scene is headed in Seattle - in the US and the world?

The BDSM scene in Seattle is certainly on the upswing. We have one wildly successful club offering activities almost every night, and now quite a few smaller venues as well. Information is easily available to anyone who cares to search it out.

I imagine that other areas of the country, and indeed the world are experiencing a similar pattern of growth. I believe that will continue into the future.

What are some changes you'd like to see or help to make?

I would like to see groups such as the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and the Woodhull Freedom Foundation continue to grow and thrive. It is vitally important that these groups which fight for the rights of our community be successful in their efforts, and I hope that we can all support them in their activities.

Thank you very much for your kind response. All of us wish you the very best always, Bobbi