Some truly amazing people read this blog; I’ve gotten to know many of you through your comments left here, and our email exchanges. That is why I sometimes ask for the opinions of everyone, opinions about questions I find interesting.
The last couple of days I’ve been thinking about one question a great deal. If one had to choose, what is most important in ones life, bdsm, or polyamory? Luckily none of us has to make that choice, but if we did, which would we choose I wonder.
As all of my readers know, I’m very, very deeply involved with bdsm. As I imagine most of my readers know, I’m also deeply involved with polyamory.
I embraced bdsm earlier in my life, and while the road to acceptance of my dominance was a bit difficult at times, it wasn’t all that hard, and I became successful at both the physical and emotional aspects of bdsm fairly easily. I guess in a nutshell I’m saying that bdsm came easily to me, and at a very young age.
Polyamory was different for me. I embraced it later in my life, and the road to full acceptance of it was much more difficult. I also found it much harder to master the emotional skills necessary for successful polyamory. I am now quite successfully polyamorous, but in it’s own nutshell, I can say that the journey was tough and not mastered until I gained wisdom from age.
This week, as I contemplate my life, my predilections, and my loves, I wonder which is actually more important to me, my embrace of bdsm, or my embrace of polyamory. Of course for me these two things are intertwined, which perhaps makes my question even more difficult for me to answer.
For those of you who are both kinky and poly, or who have experienced both, I am very curious about your own personal answers. What is more important to you, bdsm or polyamory?
