"You aren't worthy to see the beauty of female love." She said as she fastened the heavy leather hood over my head.

"I'll let you listen tonight, but you will never be permitted to watch." She continued.

Blinded by the hood, the dominatrix had to lead me into the cage, a dominant feature in the corner of her bedroom. Once I was inside, I heard the two padlocks fasten the door closed.

After the click of the locks silence abounded. I knew that she had walked into the arms of her female lover, knew that soon the sounds of their lovemaking would reach my ears.

I eagerly waited with the most intense feeling of anticipation.

Posted by Milliscent at 12:19 PM | Permalink | Comments (2)

By definition dominant women are dominant. The fact that so many producers of erotic materials forget this fact has always been a huge pet peeve of mine.

Dominant women do not lock their husbands in chastity devices, then cuckold those now chaste husbands by going out and submitting to a ‘real man,’ or as I’ve so often read giving both her submission and that of her husband to said ‘real man.’

A woman who is a switch might very well do this. There is certainly nothing wrong with doing this, * and for those women who love to switch it might be a tremendous turn on to unmercifully dominate one man while completely submitting to another.

Likewise the fellow who enjoys submitting to a switchable female might very well enjoy his submission to her, and if she requires it, his submission to her dominant bull.

Let’s be honest though. To call such a woman a dominant is absurd. She is not a dominant, she is a switch.

Again I say that there is nothing wrong with being a switch. But for stories to deal with such plots and claim that the woman is dominant is just plain irritating. For women who do this to claim to be dominants is equally irritating. We should all take pride in our bdsm roles whatever they may be, dominant, submissive, top, bottom, switch.

A dominant woman might very well lock her husband in a chastity device, then cuckold him by going out and finding erotic fulfillment with another man who is also submissive to her, or even weaving scenarios in which they both serve her by entertaining her with homoerotic activities. This is female dominance. A cuckoldress submitting to her ‘well hung, real man bull.’ can never be.

My request to writers of erotic stories is simple. Please stop ruining otherwise wonderful stories by waxing eloquently about the female’s extreme dominance and then having her go out and get on her knees for her ‘real man.’ Instead talk of how amazing it is that she has the mental ability to be such an amazing switch. Switches to me are amazing in their abilities to smoothly flow from top to bottom; these abilities deserve some credit in erotic fiction.

*I wrote above that there is nothing wrong with a switch dominating the hell out of her cuckold husband, then submitting to her dominant bull. I wanted to qualify that statement just a touch. There is nothing wrong with it, but it is dangerous, so care should be taken. Proper cuckolding exists to enhance the primary relationship and this is I think harder to keep in focus in such switch relationships. The female switch must in my view take even more care than usual to ensure that her cuckold’s needs are being met, and to protect her relationship with him against the very powerful emotions that can crop up.

Posted by Milliscent at 9:45 AM | Permalink | Comments (8)

Sometimes I think it is easy to become confused about just what exactly constitutes a Dominant/submissive relationship. Due to the stories we read, the perspectives we find, it is easy to start thinking that D/s relationships must be ‘dungeon’ relationships with naked slaves and all the trappings of bdsm.

This view is quite far from the truth.

A Dominant/submissive relationship is any relationship in which one person takes away the ability to make one or more decisions from another person, and that second person obeys without the condition that he or she can do the same in turn. Decision-making and obedience are the foundation of a D/s relationship, not whips, chains, and body worship.

As an example, let’s say that a boyfriend/girlfriend live together. In our example, he may suggest things, give his opinion about things, try to cajole her into doing things, just like everyone everywhere does. She in turn also acts perfectly within norms in every area of their shared lives but one.

In one area of their lives she has a rule. The rule is “Every single morning, when the alarm rings, you are to immediately get out of bed, poor me a cup of coffee, and deliver it.”

In our example, she did not consult him about the creation of this rule; she simply made it, and informed him of it. She also did not create the rule in jest, or as some kind of hope. She created it, informed him of it, and seriously demands that he obey it.

In turn, he has created no rule for her to live by, and he obeys her rule.

This relationship has no common elements of bdsm, yet it is a Dominant/submissive relationship.

Prison is a way in which we punish criminals by taking away the vast majority of the decisions they are able to make. Since when free they were unable to make proper decisions, we no longer allow them to make any important decisions. The fundamental difference of course between prison and consensual D/s, is that people in prison don’t want to be there. Those in consensual D/s relationships do.

By now, if you’ve read this far, I’ll bet I’ve got you wondering.

Wondering ‘Why on earth is she tying these two very different things together? What on earth does prison have in common with consensual D/s?

What runs through my mind this fine Seattle day, what gets me all hot and bothered is one little activity they both can have in common.

In prison the very dominant and cruel individuals regularly rape the asses of the submissive and meek individuals.

For loads of fun our dominant lady with her rule about coffee should do her best to create this facet of prison life for her live in boyfriend! Strap-on a nice big one, spread his legs, and work his little ass! Delight in his cries as she drives the dildo home, drives her point about the pecking order within the relationship home!

Favorite prison fuckholes frequently have to go to bed with sore asses from such use, her coffee boy likely should be no different. Especially since one delightful thing about a dominant woman’s strap-on cock is that it’s usually quite a lot larger than any biological cock!

Bend over coffee boy, I’ve got a hankering to make you squeal!

Posted by Milliscent at 12:07 PM | Permalink | Comments (14)