Communication, A Key In Seattle
All the bdsm and fetish 'how to' books seem to include a chapter about the importance of communication to one's sexual satisfaction.
I don't post about it much here, but I must agree with that advice.
It can be extremely hard to talk about sex, to tell our partner exactly what it is that we need. Especially if we think our desires to be strange.
We must get over it. We must overcome the fear we feel.
We are being unfair to our partner if we don't tell him or her what we desire, and just as importantly, our chances of getting our desires met fall to just about zero if our partner has no clue about them.
If we love our partner, and if our partner loves us, then certainly we can communicate and it is what we need to do if we expect our relationship to be strong over the long term.