Once we have decided exactly what we desire our partner's sexual responses to be, and have committed ourselves to the goal of attaining that desire, the next step is to exert complete control over our partner's ability to orgasm.

Each step I will outline in this process is required to meet our goal, but it should be kept in mind that controlling our partner's climax is absolutely fundamental to our ultimate success. Skimping on this step will ensure failure.

Exerting this control should begin immediately, and be enforced with perfect consistency. We don't slowly begin controlling our partner's ability to cum, we control it period.

In my experience most female dominants with male submissives who control orgasm prefer to limit the male's ability to cum beyond what he would desire if left to make his own decision while most male dominants with female submissives prefer to require a greater frequency of orgasm from their females than she would desire if left to make her own decision. There are of course exceptions to this generality; female dominants who might say require male masturbation to orgasm five times a day or more, and male dominants who prefer to keep their female submissives in a more chaste state. Generally though the limited male and pushed female model holds true for most. Whatever you decide as a dominant is perfectly correct for your particular relationship, but there are differences to performing this step based upon the sexual behavior you seek to create.

Let us assume that you are a male dominant with a female partner and a goal of increasing your partner's sexual activity. First off you must make sure that she receives more frequency of orgasm than she would seek out on her own. Try to figure out how many times she cums per week when she directs her own sexual behavior. She fucks you, how many times does she cum doing it? She masturbates, how often does she do so? Does she fuck someone else on the side, cumming with him? We need a number, and you must do your best to figure out that number.

Once you know how many times she cums, per week, when directing her own sexual behavior, increase it, rather dramatically. If she is cumming five times a week on her own, start making her cum ten times a week. Fuck her more than she needs to fuck and make certain that she cums whenever you do so. Can't keep up yourself? Learn to provide her with orgasm in different ways. The important thing is that she cums, and cums much more often than her personal needs require.

This must be done because for the process to work you need to become her only means of orgasm. The process will not work if she is masturbating on her own, cuming without you, or if she is fucking others, cumming with someone else. You as the dominant need to be her sole provider of orgasm and one of the ways you do that is by making certain that she receives all she could ever possibly desire.

Perhaps that is not as easy as it sounds, but look on the bright side, the exercise will do you both good, so fuck that little slut until she screams!

This of course holds true if you are a female dominant seeking to create a male who experiences very large numbers of orgasms.

Conversely, let us say that you are a female dominant with a male partner and it is your intention to limit his orgasms. Again, you must first try to figure out how often he cums. He cums when he fucks you, he cums if he fucks anyone else, and he cums when he masturbates. Don't fool yourself about how often he masturbates. If he's a very young man he might do it three to five times a day, an old man probably does it at least daily, be honest with yourself when considering the question, and certainly don't ask him, he'll just lie about it.

Once you have a good idea about how often he is cumming, with you and without you, start providing him the opportunity to cum more often than that with you. No, you don't have to fuck him five times a day but you do have to provide him the opportunity to cum with you more often than he would do if left to make his own sexual decisions.

Ninety-Nine percent of the time the male is going to want to cum much more often than the dominant female is going to want to engage in sex, so a plan should be developed to ensure that he receives the needed frequency of orgasm without her having to do that which she does not desire.

Create masturbation games for the male. Tell him how turned on you get when he masturbates in front of you. Order him to drop his pants and masturbate. Give him a delicious body part to lick while he masturbates. Fuck him as often or as infrequently as you desire, cut him off from penetrative sex with you entirely if that is your desire, but make sure that he cums more often than he would do if left to make his own sexual decisions. If you think he cums twice a day on his own, make sure that he cums for times a day with you.

As a part of this process, ask him to only masturbate in your presence. Ask him to only cum while you are watching. Tell him how disappointed you would be to ever think of him spilling his cum without you there. Let him cum, force him to cum so often that he has no desire to cum without you, and constantly remind him how hot watching him cum makes you. Through your actions, and your words, you want to end up in a place in which he never has a desire to cum when not with you.

It is I know, counterintuitive to have a male whom one wants to put into enforced chastity cum so frequently, but remember, this is a long-term process and you as the dominant have years to reach your ultimate goal. For now, make him cum; just make sure that he is only cumming with you.

This too holds true if you happen to be a male dominant seeking to ultimately curtail your female's frequency of orgasm.

Step two, as I've outlined above is to make your partner associate his or her orgasm with you, is to become your partner's sole provider of orgasm, excluding even him or herself.

In the next post I'll talk about how to make good use of your little slut's fuck-holes as you continue controlling her climax, and conversely about how to begin limiting your boy's ability to climax if that is a part of your ultimate goal. Stay tuned.