Who Can You Talk With? Questioning In Seattle
We, my readers and I, enjoy a very unique pleasure. I'm blessed in my pursuit of it because through the years I have made many wonderful friendships, friendships with fellow travelers whom I can discuss my desires of dominance with.
I wonder about others though. Is there a desire to talk about bdsm, femdom, polyamory, and all else we enjoy? If there is that desire, and if kinky friends are not an option, just how can those conversations take place? With whom can hopes and fears be discussed?
I'm thinking in a way of family I suppose, community as well. Not the family one is born into, but the family, the community one strives to surround himself or herself with. I wonder, do we all not need someone to share this side of ourselves with? Someone who can understand and accept without judgment?
Surely the advent of the internet made finding these others so much easier, made communication so much easier. I wonder just how much harder it was for us kinky folks in the days before this wonderful tool existed.
I have no answers to these questions this Friday afternoon, but I do sit here pondering them.
Comments
Dear Milliscent
Great artical.
Not many of my friends are into the D&s life style. In fact very few are. Of these few I seldom see them to talk about our love of D&s. Most of my friends are straight, or at least I think so. There are some that posably could or would enjoy D&s. I enjoy talking about my experiances, desires and anything related to BDSM.
But,I live in two worlds. So as I have said befor. "It isn't easy being me"
short tube
Posted by: short tube | August 15, 2009 8:38 AM
short tube,
Thank you, I'm glad that you enjoyed it. It is always tough to know just whom might be open to the spicy side of life, I imagine that we all must have kinky friends we don't know about, but of course it's not something that can just be brought up in conversation.
M
Posted by: Milliscent
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August 15, 2009 4:05 PM
MM: Where were you when I needed you?! I think back to my uni days and life in a poly bdsm relationship. It was so new, delicious and blissful. Just the same, I had questions. I knew people who were poly and had years of experience in such relationships. I politely sought their advise. When bdsm entered the discussion, I could immediately sense great discomfort and knew my enquiries were misdirected. I then turned to others who embraced poly bdsm in various forms as a lifestyle. Wonderful! I should learn a great deal. Sadly.. no. When it became apparent that a male was involved in the equation..and heaven forbid.. as Top to one of us, the conversation came to a quick end. I eventually discovered a forum.. this being a bit pre-blog.. and conversed via message and email with a lovely woman from Canada. She was delightful and shared so much. I learned to embrace the present.. not to ponder the future as I obsessively did. "Savor what you have and invest in it, Amy." I haven't forgotten those words. She was right. It still strikes me that I had friends and acquaintences with experience in the area I sought and my answers came from a stranger thousands of miles away. Thankfully, we had the occasion to meet at the Folsom Fair a few years ago. We remain dear friends.
Posted by: Amy | August 20, 2009 3:12 AM
Amy,
Thank you for sharing your story with me. I am pleased to read that you found someone in the end, and that you got to meet at the Folsom Fair!
M
Posted by: Milliscent | August 28, 2009 4:45 PM