A Real Bitch, Ego In Seattle
I've got a good friend who has been in a bad marriage for a number of years. What started out as good between them slowly changed into a marriage without intimacy and an ever more whiny and demanding situation. He hasn't been happy for a long time so I was pleased when I heard recently that she told him to take his dog and go.
This booting out of the house is the apparent result of her finding evidence of an affair.
It's an old story, repeated all too often in modern society.
What I find interesting though is what she decided about the breakup of the marriage, and the cause for the affair.
She didn't consider what the true causes of the failure could be rather she decided that he is mentally ill. Apparently in her mind she has decided that the only reason why he would not want to be with her is if he is mentally ill.
That's an ego that would put the bitchiest of dominatrices to shame!
Comments
I know that you're making a humorous point, but this is, in fact, a pretty common attitude among people in bad relationships.
It's sad that people will be willing to settle for a crappy relationship for *years,* but will not put an ounce of work toward either making it better or into improving themselves. It's simply much easier to sulk and blame somebody else.
Posted by: Tom Allen | July 12, 2009 1:41 PM
Hi Ms. Milliscent,
This is an old tale, oft repeated. It sounds very much like the evolution of my second marriage now twenty years defunct.
I feel that relationships are always 50/50 unless you're dealing with true psychotic types. Anyone who thinks they are without fault is seriously deluded.
In the long run, they are probably better off without each other. I feel sorry for the guy. He will probably carry most of the guilt for a while and suffer more than he should.
Best,
scott
Mrs. Kelly's Playhouse
Posted by: scott Kelly | July 12, 2009 3:48 PM
Well! What fool would not want to be with her?
Posted by: susans.pet | July 13, 2009 6:23 PM
tom,
Indeed you are right, a lack of work on one partner, or both partners part is the death of a great many relationships, and folks will suffer for years instead of doing that work.
In my view, life is too short to be lived in a miserable relationship.
M
Posted by: Milliscent | July 19, 2009 12:48 PM
scott,
Yes, they will be better off without each other.
I don't think that he will suffer much though, I notice that his friends and family are all congratulating him on finally getting rid of what was obviously a horrible relationship.
M
Posted by: Milliscent | July 19, 2009 12:50 PM
Susan's pet,
Ah, he was sort of a slave to her, but alas not a good one.
Whining and nagging are no fun at all. Clear commands enforced with the whip are!
M
Posted by: Milliscent | July 19, 2009 12:52 PM
I do pray that by the title of the post M. Milliscent is not suggesting that she is not a 'real' Bitch.
Posted by: alexis | July 21, 2009 12:48 PM
alexis,
But I can be very nice while bringing tears to a boy's eye!
M
Posted by: Milliscent | July 25, 2009 11:24 AM