A fellow blogger who has over the past couple of years become a good friend to me recently did me a tremendous honor. He took a post I had written based upon fundamental questions that I found within his own writings and greatly expounded upon each of the questions. The result is a remarkable body of work, an extremely valuable contribution to the theory of female domination.

I know that the men who read my blog fall into broad categories. Some want female domination to remain a fantasy for them, some want to experience it with a professional dominatrix like me. Still others though want to live it. They want to devote their lives to serving the Mistress of their dreams. In my view, each of these potential full time submissives, potential slaves should pay very close attention to the links that follow, for within them is I think the very key to finding, and keeping, the 24/7 domination one is seeking.

There is much fantasy written online, and fantasy is wonderful. It’s not however necessarily indicative of how to find and grow a relationship with a dominant woman, nor is it perhaps a good picture of a lifetime serving such a woman. Alexis is in a long-term D/s relationship, I’ve been getting to know his Mistress and hope to become good friends with her as well in time. The posts that follow aren’t fantasy; they are about reality, about finding and keeping that true domination that so many seek in vain.

Class is in session my little boys!

My post that started it all:

Hardcore Female Dominance, Questioning In Seattle

The series of posts by Alexis:

What Is It For?
“……what would you accept for the opportunity to be nearer to a living deity? If this particular supernatural being’s presence were so close that you might reach out and touch her, and feel in contact with creation and all the universe itself, would the prospect of suffering terribly be so much a price?”

Her Vision
“If you hitched your star to the will and power of someone you judged superior to yourself, could you honestly say that they wouldn’t have the opportunity to make decisions for you that weren’t better? If they were superior, and they were more intelligent than you, then wouldn’t it be outlandishly stupid to stubbornly cling to your own downfall, strictly on the argument that it was YOURS?”

No Fear
“Fear is the dividing line. It is the assumption of authority by force.”

The State
“The act of deciding that one will be a Dominatrix is to say, “I will be one of the privileged class.” From that point forward, the only reasonable attitude to take is that those who serve shall do so according to their stature within the class structure as defined by the Dominatrix’s principles.”

The Morality Of Distance
“The reality is, moralistically, our sex lives are nobody’s business but ours. It may be your brother or your father putting himself under the thumb of a Dominatrix, but that is his problem and none of your fucking business…it only becomes your business when its YOU under the Dominatrix’s thumb.”

The Exploiter Within
“Once you know you can own people at will, you’ll never go back. You won’t just “feel” stronger, you will know intrinsically that you are stronger, you will feel the primitive thrumming of your blood, hot with passion, as it flows through your whip hand and into his flesh. Exploitation, predation…this is the natural focus of the Dominatrix.”

Holding The Reins
“…..if we are going to be limited by what our parents thought about sexual exploitation and self-satisfaction, we probably need to move, as I've said before, to the suburbs.”

Gameplaying
“In other words, if she does not care what he wants, and she is ready to carry her disregard for him by destroying his freedom, it is not a game. But if she respects his right to be free, then it is a game.”

Sculpt
“The trick of Domination is not to grind him down to paste, to create the sort of muck that needs to be sprayed off the pavement and into the gutter. The trick is to mold and sculpt. Every tool has its purpose and its application. A little bit of the chisel here; a stroke of the polishing cloth there. Knock away what isn’t wanted. Brighten and shine everything that’s desirable. Then to have it on display, to serve and to amuse the Dominatrix’s pleasure.”

The Victorian Program
“She sets the terms of his freedom; she takes her vindictive pleasures in their smallnesses or their largenesses; and she loves or preys upon him in the manner that is satisfying to her.”

Intolerance
“…..what does she have to gain by not picking up a crop and making it clear right fucking now that his hands should be full of can handles and his feet moving toot sweet to the curb?”

Faith
“How different is it, I ask, from the pedantic southern proverb that a boy should listen to his mother? Mother or Dominatrix, maybe it should be said a boy should listen to a woman.”

A Relationship
“…..a woman, seeing her co-equal partner in a Snow White costume eating corn mixed with dry cornmeal out of a dog dish will have flashes of insight into her actual superiority…..”

I Can’t Say
“My particular fascinations, and those of my Mistress, tend towards the steady and slow destruction of the mind and the reordering of the submissive’s thoughts and interests.”

The Principals Of Possession
“Most perspectives of an open marriage assume that it would be necessary to define boundaries and make rules and put up with pouting where it comes to a multi-person relationship. I don’t believe that’s true, when everyone is an adult and everyone accepts that one person in the relationship—the Dominatrix—has the only say in who sees who and who goes where. Let me emphasize. Not the “final” say—the ONLY say.”

Positional Defense
“A Dominatrix, however, chooses by her admission to BE a despot. That is her desire. To influence another person, and to do so with her truth. A submissive knows that this truth will be delivered into him, by her actions and her approval. He adapts himself as she presents a society for him to live in, complete with truths backed by her will to power.”

Conservation Of Energy
“And will a submissive not behave more devoutly to a Dominatrix who will kiss him before she fucks him, or give him an opportunity to shift on his knees as she plunges deeper, or allows him a moment to breathe, gag out, before she takes her next step with the branding iron?”

The Next Mindset
“She understood. She thoughtfully reassured me that she didn’t think that it was reasonable for a submissive to be “on” in every instance. Then she proceeded to hood and gag me, roll me over and rape me and just generally continue a session for several hours, all the time knowing I wasn’t enjoying myself very much.”

The Cold Reality
“it is understood by many Dominants that a direct and rational application of negative reinforcement is a necessary process in the training of human beings towards accepting and appreciating their natural submissive tendencies.”