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The New E in Erotica from Publishers Weekly
Do you know how much of your porn is extreme? from The Register
Married after 50 years together: Octogenarian lesbian couple celebrate California's first ever legal same-sex marriage from the Daily Mail
The Top 10 Reasons to Vacation at a Clothing Optional Resort This Summer by The Terra Cotta Inn
Sex in Asia: Thailand's Transsexuals Take Part in Beauty Contest from Ed Strong
Tomorrow I get to play all day!
That of course means that today I must make my wicked plans; oh how the poor slave shall suffer.
What a perfect day to lay outside, dreaming of just what I shall do to him, dreaming of just how he will serve me.
Perhaps you will serve me next.
There was a bit of bad news on my trip to Oregon. We had 4 MacBook Pro computers in the Rolling Silver Orgasm (I know, it's strange, three people needing four of the worlds best computers while on vacation, long story.)
One of them, the newest one, got sick. You see, we were enjoying a fine red wine when a glass spilled upon said MacBook Pro, so we got to watch the computer drink it up. Unfortunately, apparently fine red wine and fine apple computers don't go together.
In any event, the computer survived it's mishap and still works fine. The screen though is another matter. Wine got up behind it causing all the colors to go haywire.
What's a dominatrix to do? On the drive home stop by Bellevue Square, in the height of rush hour, in a full sized pickup truck, pulling a massive trailer of course.
All to see the Apple Genius at the Apple Store.
Well, lemme tell ya, those guys are certainly not geniuses.
They couldn't just replace the damaged screen, they would have to replace everything. The screen, the hinges, the webcam, the bezel, even the lighted apple logo. $900 bucks.
While the price was shockingly high, one can't be without a computer, so the repair could have been made.
Question from our side:
How long does it take to replace the top half of the laptop?
Answer from the Genius:
Three to ten minutes.
Question from our side:
Do you have the part in stock here in the store?
Answer from the Genius:
Yes.
Question from our side:
Great! We will just shop around a bit, when should we come back to pick it up?
Answer from the Genius:
In about a week.
Question from our side:
You are just standing here talking to us, you have the part, can't you just do it now?
Answer from the Genius:
No.
Question from our side:
OK, how about selling us the part, we will change it ourselves?
Answer from the Genius:
Can't sell you the part.
Question from our side:
Since it only takes a few minutes to change the part, and since you are talking to us for those few minutes, who says you can't do it now, that you have to wait about a week?
Answer from the Genius:
Headquarters.
Question from our side:
Can we talk to your manager?
Answer from the Genius:
He's not here.
Needless to say we will not be having this repair done by the less than geniuses at the Apple Store. We found online a place that sells replacement screens, with full instructions on swapping them out. All at a much reduced cost.
I have been using and enjoying Mac computers since I first started with computers many years ago. I even remained loyal through the horrible years under Gil A. Amazing machines, but this was a truly awful repair experience.
As an Apple shareholder I hope that Mr. Jobs will be making improvements to the Genius offerings very soon.
Today is simply amazing. Warm and sunny without a cloud in the sky. I'm sitting on the deck of Studio Milliscent just enjoying the sun upon my body. It truly doesn't get any better than this.
I hope that you will come experience this tremendous time in the Cascades with me!
A few days ago I returned from my latest trip to Cannon Beach, a perfectly wonderful, if Vanilla time. I did get to see two wonderful submissives while there, but alas, not in places it would be considered appropriate to whip out the cane!
I enjoyed taking some photo's while on the trip, a sampling can be found by clicking the 'continue reading' link below.
Nightfall on Cannon Beach
Towers in the Pacific Ocean
Haystack Rock
Sunset
Waterfall
Just south of town, off Highway 101
Life in Tide Pools
Shipwreck off Fort Stevens
I thought I'd take the opportunity to sit on my deck this beautiful evening and move the last of the links over from my blogspot blog location. If by chance I missed your link, please just let me know.
Alexis
AlexSuze
Babeland
Kink Magic
Leather n Pearls
Mistress 160
Nobody's Business
Face Seat Cushion
Come to me, we shall surely have a most wonderful time together!
Yesterday the state Economic and Revenue Forecast Council released its June quarterly forecast. This was the first forecast made under the direction of Dr. Steve Lerch, Interim Director of the Council.
Our state government seems to be in good shape, revenue is forecasted to decrease from projections by about 223.9 million dollars, but the ending fund balance plus reserves are at about 801.4 million dollars.
Our economy is expected to grow over the 2007 through 2009 cycle at slightly less than 3% per year. While not tremendous numbers, 3% is certainly a reasonable level of growth, and this shows that our state economy remains fundamentally strong despite a more dismal outlook nationwide.
Our economy is forecast to do even better in the 2009 through 2011 cycle with about a 4% growth rate per year projected.
The forecast projects that the housing market will rebound in the third quarter of this year and foreclosures in Washington remain substantially lower than the national average. Population growth is expected to continue driving up the demand for housing.
Beyond Washington’s borders, the national economy is generally weak; our unique mix of industries and trade is protecting us from the nationwide downturn.
Washington consumers have started saving more of their money, which is fundamentally important to future economic growth.
There is no recession projected for Washington State between now and 2012.
I want you on your hands and knees with your legs spread wide and your back arched provocatively. That position shows you off so well it excites me to see you that way, excites me to have such a perfect view of the man I will violate, such a perfect view of what exactly I will be violating.
How will your body feel when my long hard strap-on first enters? How will the feeling change when it is buried up to the hilt? How will the feeling change yet again as my force and tempo increases?
What will happen within your thoughts as I first enter your body? What change will happen within your thoughts as I drive my toy deeper within you? What ongoing change will happen within your thoughts as I increase the speed and the power of my thrusts?
Will your emotions run wild as I first open you for my pleasure? Will they take you to strange and amazing places as I open you further still? Will they intensify as I intensify my own use of your body?
I hope that we all know the answers to these questions, for I find them to be amazing answers indeed!
In a sad blow to our First Amendment freedoms Paul Little aka Max Hardcore was convicted of selling obscene material last week.
I've been aware of Max's work for a long time, he had a truly wicked and twisted imagination and he gave satisfaction to untold thousands of people who shared his interests. While doing so he was able to make a good living for himself and create jobs for others.
The building of a brand and products that people wanted to buy, profit from ones efforts, the creation of jobs in the process. Capitalism at it's finest, the American way. Apparently not in Max's case, for apparently he crossed an ill defined, changeable line and was prosecuted by the Bush Administration at the urging of Christian fundamentalists.
No matter what is thought of Max's films, this case must be deeply troubling to those who value freedom, and especially those of us who value sexual freedom. The enemies of freedom will target a marginal figure like Max first but now that he has been successfully persecuted they will attempt to move ever closer to the mainstream. This process must be stopped.
Jurors convict adult film producer from the St. Petersburg Times
I hope that we will all remember what happened to Max, what could happen to us when we vote this summer and fall.
October 2, 2006
Opportunists
It is said that one should never discuss religion or politics in public. I hate being conformist, so here is a bit of both.
Yesterday I posted a number of links to organizations working to protect and expand the rights of sexual freedom for consenting adults.
The sexual freedoms we enjoy are always under attack, and I think it only fair to very frankly discuss exactly who is attacking them.
I should begin this by stating that I am a life long republican. I believe in personal responsibility, the free enterprise system, and a strong national defense. I also believe that government is too large and it spends too much money. I think it needs to shrink in size and scope. Time was that my vision of republicanism was in the mainstream of the party. It no longer is. The party has been taken over by culturally conservative zealots with an agenda to create a theocracy here in America. My wing of the party, the libertarian wing, has been beaten into obscurity and the core values my wing represents only receive mention at election time as republicans are again forced to reach out to the American mainstream.
This trend within the party is shocking to me, I cannot fathom how anyone could think that a theocratic government would be good for America or her citizens. One needs look no further than Saudi Arabia to see how such a government would work.
This conservative right wing, these people who would love to see an American government based upon bible tenants, it's only fair to ask, just who are these people, and how do they behave?
These individuals and this group who seek to limit sexual freedom for everyone, what are their own sexual lives like?
Let's start with organized religion. The Roman Catholic is our nations largest, most influential church. The church has taught for centuries that sexuality was evil, and that the marital bed, with the intention of childbearing, was the only acceptable outlet for sexuality. Any and all other sexual activity is taught to be evil. Women's rights, and women's issues of course take the brunt of the attack on sexuality.
How does this church which views virtually all sexual activity as evil handle the sexuality of it's leaders? A fair question to ask in light of it's teachings I believe. The answer as everyone knows is that it's organization seems to harbor large numbers of child molesters, child molesters who the church does all in it's power to protect from justice when discovered.
Molestation of children, lies, and cover-ups. All this while teaching against the pursuit of sexual pleasure.
Washington State Senator and Spokane Mayor Jim West. Senator West was a right wing politician. As Majority Leader of the Senate he went above and beyond the call of duty in protecting us Washingtonians against the evils of homosexuality by preventing the passage of a bill which would give equal protection under the law to gays and lesbians.
The bill did finally pass after Senator West left our legislature, and went on to peddle his nonsense to the people of Spokane.
Senator West, the man who worked so hard to make sure that it was legal to discriminate against gays and lesbians. It is fair to ask about his own sexuality since he felt that sexuality was a legitimate focus of public debate. So, did his behavior match his words? Of course not. As the good people of Spokane learned, the Senator used public resources to recruit young men into his bed.
Abuse of power, lies, and cover-ups. All this while legislating against sexual freedom for everyone else.
This brings us to the republican of the week, Florida Congressman Mark Foley. Let's take a look at this fellow, and his colleagues.
The Congressman, while fighting for a repressed America, was spending lots of his free time sending sexually explicit emails to underage boys. Not content to only email though, the good Congressman even taught himself how to use instant messaging. One has to wonder if he was a good or a bad one handed typist.
The scandal can't end with Mr. Foley though, let's not forget the republican leadership.
Speaker Hastert knew of Mr. Foleys behavior six months ago and did nothing to stop it. Republican press statements strongly hint that "Top House Republicans" were aware of the email traffic as well, but of course decided to sweep it under the rug in this election year.
To top it all off, what exactly did Mr. Foley do in Congress? Will wonders never cease, he was Chairman of the House Caucus on missing and exploited children.
Molestation, lies, and cover-ups. All while the republican Congress and administration works to keep Americans safe by shutting down pornographic websites and arresting porn video producers.
My rant over, I do want to make it clear that I still strongly believe in traditional republican values. The values of Ronald Reagan and Barry Goldwater. I also want to make it clear that I do believe in a higher power, and take my own spirituality seriously.
I must point out with this post though that the people currently parading themselves as god fearing republicans waging a cultural war against erotic expression of all kinds are neither republicans nor men of god. They are simply opportunists using a gullible minority to further their own selfish drive for power.
Organizations can not function without the support of their membership. It is up to us to clean up our churches, and to clean up our politics. We need to work to ensure that our leaders are good moral people, people who do not molest or otherwise exploit the most vulnerable members of our society while advocating against adult, consensual sexual expression.
Let me change you, let me improve you. Together we shall forget all about your cock, forget about everything masculine. I have no need of such things anyway so perhaps it is best that we forget they are even there.
A nice cage will keep that cock locked safely away, a good sharp razor will bring you much closer to the body of a girl. Mannerisms should change; merciless training will serve to soften you.
Sexy panties, a beautiful bra, garter belt, stockings, and of course towering heels. Feminization suits you perfectly. Makeup and a cute wig, each addition making you more and more my girl.
The man gone, my girl complete, it is time for me to take my own pleasure. You must learn to suck, suck my strap-on, swallow my dildo. I want to see those made up lips all the way down to the base of the shaft.
Turn around, bend over for me. Give me your ass, the ass transformed into a cunt, for I shall work it hard. Penetrating you, violating you, fucking you, using you as my girl. I want to hear the beautiful girl I’ve created crying out for me, I want to watch her suffering for me.
Together we shall work to do away with the man, create the perfect girl for my amusement.
As you have noticed, this blog contains advertising banners. This is a change from when it was hosted by blogger where I did not include any advertising.
I've done this because the old location included free hosting. This new location I must pay for each and every month. The banners on the blog will help me to do that.
Thank you for considering the items offered by my advertisers, and a big thank you to those of you who might follow the banners and buy. Your support is truly appreciated.
I think it fair to say that the sites I advertise here are sites that I have personal experience with and enjoy. I will not include advertising for anything that I don't think offers good values.
9/30/2006
Intercourse, or a Lack Thereof
It seems that we have a theme going.
Following my post "Sex, Or A Lack Thereof" Wayne Rogers commented with his opinion that a dominant woman should never have intercourse with a submissive, even if he is her husband.
He further states his view that instead of her submissive husband the dominant woman should always turn for intercourse to an alpha male or another woman.
I am married, but my husband is not submissive so I have not been able to put this into practice, but I do agree with the general ideas Wayne expresses.
If I was married to my submissive, his cock would never enter my body. I would find great joy in his sexual suffering, and as I mentioned in an earlier post, traditional sex changes the power dynamics within a female dominated relationship. I would not allow that change.
I would however fuck a submissive husband. In fact I would delight in it. I believe that sex is important in any marriage and I would make certain that his ass was well used by my strap on as often as possible.
I agree with Wayne that just because a submissive is denied sexual release that does not mean the dominant should be denied orgasm, and I agree that it is wholly proper for a dominant wife to seek out other males or females to have sex with. I disagree with Wayne that an alpha male would be a good choice. If I was married to my submissive I would find another submissive to cuckold him with. I would not need, nor desire being "taken" by some alpha ego. Besides, it would be great foreplay watching the boys entertain me.
Wayne does mention that he feels it's proper for a submissive husband to orally pleasure his wife and Mistress. I agree with that as well, but I would take it a good deal further, as imagination is truly the only limit. How about a penis gag for him which she can ride to orgasm when desired? How about binding his cock out of the way and strapping a dildo to his hips for her pleasure? The possibilities are endless.
I’ve just returned from a short visit with family in Minnesota. One does have to be good around family, so I am in desperate need of some cute asses to beat!
Will you come visit me? Help to fulfill my craving? Suffer for me?
I do enjoy pornography, if it is good pornography. Men in Pain can be very good pornography.
The banner will take you to some samples; full site access is on a membership basis.
The slow server performance issues related to commenting have been taken care of. I believe that you will now find commenting to be extremely quick and easy.
I want to take this opportunity to give a plug to my webmistress. It can be difficult to find web designers and hosts willing to take on bdsm sites, and it is extremely difficult to find great ones. I’ve been with Christine and her husband David for eleven years now and I must say that they are superb at what they do.
If you need a good adult web hosting service, I strongly recommend that you check out what they can offer.
Sex Is Funny
"Mostly the light and silly side of human sexuality."
Thus far all the thoughts about this new blog location are good, except for the performance of the blog comment form. Just a quick note to let everyone know that the problem is being worked on now, and hopefully performance will be improved.
Until that is done, my posting will need to be slowed down as my webmistress doesn’t want me mucking around in the admit area too much as she works on it.
We should be back to regular posting very soon.
Today I bring you two excellent cuckolding links. One written from the female perspective, the other the male. Enjoy!
Mrs. Kelly's Playhouse
Where Emma and scott relay their thoughts and adventures.
cuckold husband
Where bdenied keeps us well informed of his wife's many adventures.
Today I bring you Hers Forever a blog detailing one couple’s Female Led Relationship and marriage.
Each year I put out a hummingbird feeder or two, and I always get a small number of the birds in residence as a result.
This year is radically different. This year I have huge numbers of them. Enough that they will drink the feeder dry within hours. They hover around it, they argue over it, and they take advantage of any opportunity to drink from it.
Yesterday I filled it, and then just stood with it in my hand and they were actually drinking from it as I held it. Simply amazing.
Equally amazing is the fact that I have another feeder twenty feet or less from the popular one. It gets virtually no use at all.
Funny, yet amazing little creatures.
I continue to move my links over from Blogger, I’ve got some great ones for you to explore today.
Wendy McElroy
Wendy delivers hard-hitting news and commentary from a libertarian feminist perspective.
Vin Suprynowicz
A nationally syndicated columnist for the Las Vegas Review-Journal, Vin is an important voice within the libertarian movement. I highly recommend his book The Black Arrow which can be purchased from the link above.
The Human Equine
Pony play at it’s best!
Susie Bright’s Journal
Sex positive commentary from this very highly regarded author.
9/28/2006
What Kind of Daddy are You?
It's possible that some people might be offended by this post. It's possible that some people will find it to be in poor taste. In my first post to this blog I wrote that one of the blogs purposes was education. This post is about fathers, and the ways in which they raise their daughters. If you might find my opinions about this offensive, please don't read this post. If you find thoughts about parenting in poor taste on a blog about female domination, please don't read this post.
For everyone else, what kind of daddy are you?
Reading Maria's Diary caused me to reflect on my own past, and brought to mind the thoughts that make up this post. Let me say right up front that I had a good childhood. I was a happy child with loving parents. My childhood home was however an extremely sex negative one.
No father wants to think about his daughter doing things like Maria. He doesn't want to think of his daughter fucking her lover while her husband watches, wanking in the corner.
No father wants to think about his daughter doing things like me. He doesn't want to think of his daughter finding intense erotic enjoyment from whipping a man she doesn't even know outside of the dungeon.
For that matter no father wants to think about his daughter living in a home like mine, a home in which 25% of the square footage is devoted exclusively to bdsm.
I understand how a father feels. I also however take great exception to the fact that so many daughters are raised to believe that their sexuality is somehow wrong, dirty, evil, or nasty. That women must be either virgins or whores, and that virgins are to be honored while whores are nothing but societies trash.
In our society we raise our daughters a great deal differently than we raise our sons. This difference is most pronounced in the attitudes we communicate to girls regarding sexuality.
Generally boys are socialized to believe that sex is OK, while girls are socialized to believe that sex is dirty, nasty, or downright evil.
What kind of daddy are you?
Are you the kind of father who will raise his daughter to suffer through a lifetime of sexual frustration? Are you the kind of father who will raise a daughter afraid to fantasize about, let alone explore her own sexuality? Are you the kind of father who will raise a frigid, uptight, and fearful daughter who will be unable to find and hold deeply loving and intimate relationships? Are you the kind of father who will raise a daughter unable to build a strong marriage because of her hang-ups over her and her husbands sexuality?
I sincerely hope that you are not that kind of father. I hope that you are the kind of father who will raise a daughter able to find joy and fulfillment in her sexuality. I hope that you are the kind of father who will raise a daughter unafraid to fantasize about and explore her own sexuality. I hope that you are the kind of father who will raise a loving, open, and fulfilled daughter who is able to find and hold deeply loving and intimate relationships. I hope that you are the kind of father who will raise a daughter who is able to build a strong marriage, if she desires one, because she is able to fully explore and enjoy the sexual side of her relationship with her husband.
As a father you would not socialize your son in such a way that he believed that sex was evil, or somehow too dangerous to enjoy. I hope that you will not socialize your daughter in such a way that she believes that sex is bad, or too dangerous to enjoy.
Both Maria and I were lucky. We both suffered from sex negative conditioning, but we were both able to overcome it. It took Maria ten years to fully embrace her sexuality, I was blessed in that it didn't take me that long. I still remember the negative attitudes though, and in some small ways they still haunt me to this day.
Most women are not lucky as we were. Most women who suffered from such negative conditioning never overcome it. They are unfortunately given to a life of sexual un-fulfillment, and will never truly experience the joy that is offered by their sexuality.
Socializing a daughter in a sex positive way does not mean that she will become a whore. It does not mean that she will share my proclivities, or write a diary like Maria's. It does mean that she will have an opportunity to find joy and fulfillment in her own unique sexuality, whatever that may be.
Fathers are not able to control their adult daughters sexuality anyway, I am proof of this, Maria's Diary is proof of this. Why then do so many fathers subject their daughters to sex negative upbringings in an attempt to do just that.
Daughters do grow up, they will have sex. Sex is not a zero sum proposition. There are a myriad of choices out there for women, she will not limited to being only a virgin or a whore. Be a good father, don't fill her mind with thoughts that sex is somehow evil, bad, dirty, or too dangerous to even discuss. Let her grow up in such a way that she can find the joy and fulfillment she deserves from her sexuality, whatever it may be.
I want to read your thoughts about this new location for my blog.
Do you like the new look?
Does the server deliver it fast enough for you?
Is it easy to read?
Is it easy to navigate?
Do you prefer it to the old location?
Anything else?
I believe that it is quite easy to leave a comment here. Just click the ‘comments’ link under each post; doing so will bring up a form.
In the form type your name or scene name, whatever you would like to go by. Put in your email address if you so desire, and your URL if you have one and want it to be linked.
Whatever name you enter will be published, as will your URL if you include one. Your email address will not.
Lastly, the URL and email fields are not required fields. You may leave them blank yet still comment. The entire comment system is easier to use than it was on Blogger.
I look forward to reading your comments upon this new location soon!
9/25/2006
SSC –vs- Rack
For many years now, in an attempt to make bdsm more palatable to the vanilla public, members of our subculture have been using the term SSC, Safe, Sane, and Consensual. While I understand the motivation behind the use of SSC, I don't think it is an accurate portrayal of what we do, and I think that it could be misleading to some percentage of people.
The use of SSC implies that bdsm is safe. The dictionary defines the word safe as "not exposed to danger or risk." It is misleading to claim that bdsm is safe because bdsm does contain some risk of danger.
I don't want to imply that bdsm is unreasonably dangerous because it is not. In all my years of playing I've not injured a submissive, and for that matter I've never seen a submissive seriously injured at any of the hundreds of bdsm parties I've attended.
Done with skill bdsm is certainly much safer than driving to the local market, safer than any physical sports, and safer than any other activity which provides such levels of extreme excitement.
We are however playing with toys, equipment, and techniques which could cause injury if not used correctly. Therefore implying that bdsm is 100% safe is not proper.
Sane is the second word in the mantra. I think that for the purposes used it fails miserably. Those of us in the bdsm community know what is meant by the word sane as we use it, but that is only because we think about it, and we discuss it amongst ourselves. The meaning will escape the vanilla public who most likely quickly think about the "Safe and Sane" label on the fireworks they bought last 4th of July.
Out of the three words, consensual is the only one I can totally agree with.
Another descriptive phrase has been floating around the community for a while now, one that I think is a much better portrayal of what we do. RACK. Risk Aware Consensual Kink.
RACK acknowledges the fact that while very low there is some risk involved with bdsm, plus it continues to stress the importance of consent in all that we do.
I remain hopeful that as time passes more and more people substitute RACK for SSC, so that the inferior phrase slowly fades away.
Saratoga writes a wonderful blog about female dominance and supremacy:
On Female Dominance of the Male
I am pleased to call your attention to his blog, and to continue my link into it.
On a related note, I do plan to move all of my links over to this new location, but doing so will take some time so I ask that you have patience with the process.
